Bridge Out Ahead

23 06 2010

One of the most common questions that I get in response to Lord Save Us has to do with how we treat those in our life who are living outside the will of God. I believe we need to approach this topic with a great deal of humility and self-reflection. Personally, I’ve found myself in trouble when I start being too sure that I understand God’s will for SOMEONE ELSE. Clearly, it’s an area we’ve all struggled with which probably explains why, “Well, what do we do then?” comes up so often. Now, those less charitable accuse me of “loving people straight to hell” or the more civil phase it “how do we introduce the notion of repentance?” The following is an exchange of letters that explores this conflict.

K.D.:
Really enjoyed your convicting commentary. Honest question, “Conversation” is important. Do we share with those living in sin willfully are we not to bring to their attention the Idea of Repentance? If a person is going on a road and we know the bridge is gone and they are headed to destruction and we don’t tell them, where is the Love behind that?

Dan:
Thanks for checking out the film and thanks for your comments. Good question, fair question.

I guess my take is that the true Gospel isn’t really shared outside of some kind of relationship. And Conversation is simply a place to start. I believe that if these people (whomever we want to witness to) KNOW that we are a Christian – that is the source of our love – then that love, in fact, WILL lead them to the cross. When we demonstrate something beautiful and true (God’s love, His Truth and Grace) to people, they are attracted to it. If we are obedient to God and truly rely on Him and create a space for the Holy Spirit to show up (relationships), then He will do so – and it’s amazing. I find it curious that in John, Jesus calls the disciples to LOVE one another (13:34-35) and later tells them he will leave a Spirit of TRUTH as a helper. Why not the other way around? We need to do our part and trust that God is with us. I think we often feel the need to jump in front of God and the Holy Spirit if we don’t see the results WE want.

As for your bridge-out analogy, it doesn’t account for someone who doesn’t believe that the bridge is out – which is likely to include most of the people we are talking about here. So then what? Interestingly, in my five or so years working on this project and then screening it for about every kind of audience imaginable (gay, straight, Christian, secular, young, old, etc), I didn’t meet ONE person who hadn’t heard the Gospel – or some version of it. I’m not sure they understood it in the same way we do, but they THINK they do and therefore aren’t open or aren’t the blank slate we sometimes assume they are. But, interestingly, I did meet hundreds, possibly thousands of people who had NEVER felt God’s love, specifically never felt God’s love from someone who claimed to follow Him. That blew me away. So our premise is often wrong. People need to experience God’s love – which Jesus explains and demonstrates repeatedly is our job. The thing we forget (and I learned on my journey) is that when people know we care about them – when we’ve proven it so they believe us we have their best in mind – they are likewise interested in us and what we believe.

I believe evangelism, sharing the Good News, requires much more from us than posing a simple question like, “You don’t want to burn in hell do you?” or “Do you know Jesus died for your sins?” This faith is not an intellectual transaction it’s a heart transforming experience to enter this journey of knowing God. So for me, trusting in God to teach me how to love the unlovable (uh, me) is how I myself will truly understand the Good News and how we can more fully reflect God’s love to people who don’t know Him.

My reading of the Scriptures leads me to believe Jesus was showing us HOW to do it as well as what to do. Relationships with others are the key. If we love God, this is how we show Him. His idea, not mine. Hah. ‘Cause it’s pretty freaking difficult, wouldn’t you agree? The iconic American preacher Billy Graham once put it this way, “God’s job is to judge, the Holy Spirit’s job is to convict and our job is to love.”

K.D.:
Well put! Especially the part that addressed my “bridge-out analogy”… I get it!!! I was convicted of that fact in your movie and in your response to my question. I do try to jump ahead of God and His Spirit many times in these situations. Thanks for taking time to respond and may God continue to bless you and your unique ministry. “The unlovable” is me as well. I think I understand your view on conversation/relationship. Kind of like the Game Show version where they spent a couple of hours in the green room talking. Thanks again.

This conversation really encouraged me. Illustrating again, that there are so many people who love God are sincerely trying to figure out how to best love others. Being open to revising and improving my relationships with others seems to help me find ways to better serve and know God. That’s my experience anyway. I invite you to give it a try and see what you find – this whole “loving others” thing may turn out to be quite a revelation.

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